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Ways to reduce feelings of loneliness

Reducing feelings of loneliness include combination of psychological evidence based strategies aimed at addressing the underlying causes of loneliness, connecting with healthy social connections, and practicing a sense of belonging. Here are some effective strategies:

  1. Practice Self-Compassion and Self-Kindness: Practice self-compassion by treating yourself with kindness and understanding, especially during times of loneliness. This involves acknowledging your feelings without judgment and recognising that loneliness is a universal human experience. For example, you might say to yourself " I am worthy of love, I am worthy of compassion, I am worthy of affection and connection, I am kind, I am a good friend. I am caring, respectful, fun, loyal and all these qualities make a great friend". You can also listen to self-kindness and self-loving meditation 3 times a day as it increases feelings of self love and kindness.

  2. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Identify and challenge negative thoughts and beliefs about yourself and your social interactions. Cognitive-behavioral techniques (CBT), such as cognitive restructuring, can be useful in reframing negative self-perceptions and reducing self-critical thoughts. If you would like to learn more, and would like to start CBT which is a psychology and counselling technique, you are welcome to reach out on

  3. Build Social Skills: Develop and improve your social skills, such as active listening, empathy, assertiveness, and communication skills. Look at a role model you admire who has good social skills, what are they doing that is different and draws people to them? Practice some of those skills. Role-playing and social skills training exercises can be helpful in building confidence in social interactions and this can be helpful to learn during therapy or it can be self-taught.

  4. Increase your Social Networks: Actively seek out social connections and opportunities for social engagement. This may involve joining clubs, classes, or community groups that align with your interests and hobbies. Volunteering or participating in group activities can also provide opportunities to meet new people and create meaningful connections.

  5. Use Technology: A suggestion could be using technology to connect to social connections, such as social media, online forums, or community groups which interest you. While online interactions should not replace face-to-face interactions, they can supplement social connections, especially for individuals who may have limited access to in-person social opportunities.

  6. Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a daily practice of gratitude by reflecting on the positive aspects of your life and the relationships you do have that you value. Gratitude exercises, such as keeping a gratitude journal or expressing gratitude to others, can help shift focus away from feelings of loneliness toward greater feelings of appreciation and connection.

  7. Make time for Meaningful Activities: Pursue activities and hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment. Connecting in meaningful activities can provide a sense of purpose and connection, whether through creative pursuits, hobbies, or volunteer work. Even deciding on purchasing a pet can reduce feelings of loneliness.

  8. Seek Professional Support: For individuals experiencing chronic or severe loneliness, consider seeing a mental health professional for counseling or therapy. Therapy can provide a safe and supportive space to explore the underlying causes of loneliness, develop coping strategies, and build healthier social connections. If you require counselling, please feel free to reach out at and make an enquiry, or email me on As part of my introductory package, I am currently offering 1 free online consultation and 1 free counselling session and discounted fees for subsequent counselling sessions.

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